Kind of at a loss here..... I have a younger brother who is 45 and not sure what to do with him. He lives with my dad, dad is 68 and works as a security guard at a hospital (he's retired military). Brother doesn't pay rent, and dad buys the food and cigarettes. Both smoke. Brother is diabetic, has been since he was 18. But he's also an alcoholic and heavy smoker about a month ago he had to go in the hospital because he had a heart attack. 3-4 stints later and a couple of balloons, he's out. This isn't his first time, he had two stints put in when he was 32 also. He also doesn't work, his employee history is very sparse over the last 20 years. He's work for a few months and then not have a job, then work somewhere else for a few months. So dad told me that he's hitting hard liquor now and I didn't realize how bad. Brother had messaged me asking if I had an old OG xbox, and we worked out something if he bought an xbox 360 I would swap with him, I had the OG xbox at church, but the kids like the 360 better. I was supposed to swap when I got into work yesterday morning and he never messaged back. He finally messaged about 12:45 he just got up??? I went ahead and told him we would swap today on my way in to work. I stopped by the house and holy sheet he looked bad. You could smell the whisky coming off him and he could barely walk. Keep in mind it's 6:30am. I was taken back by his appearance, he's missing a lot of teeth, and what he has isn't great, color was grey, missing most of the hair on his head and shrivled up. It made me uncomfortable and not sure what to do now, part of me is saying we have been telling him for years to stop his drinking, and it's his choice. But part of me wants to try and help him, but I don't think he wants help. I know my dad is enabling him, because he has to get the booze from somewhere. I'm at a loss here, we are so very different people. I don't drink or smoke and always kept a job and worked for everything I have in life. I can't relate to him at all.